The blog tour for The
is kicking off tomorrow, which means that the book will be on
sale in less than a month.
surprising to me that this novel is really being published.
, I thought that maybe this book was just for me.
I didn’t think anyone would want to read or
Maybe I was just getting it
out of my system, this eating disorder book that I just had
to write, and once I finished telling Sethie’s story, I could
go back to writing something better, something people might actually want to
I never wanted to write a book about eating disorders, but I
guess I always knew I would, since there was a time when they were a big part
of my own life.
But I certainly didn’t
think there was anything to say about eating disorders that hadn’t already been
said in the books I’d read for as long as I could remember: The Best Little Girl in the World, Stick
Figure, Fasting Girls, Hunger Pains,
and more recently Unbearable Lightness
to name just a few.
I couldn’t tell you exactly
when I started reading these books, only that I read more and more as my own
I read Marya
Hornbacher’s haunting memoir Wasted
so many times that there are lines I can still, today, recite verbatim.
There was a time in my life when I wanted
to have an eating disorder: I
wanted to be skinny and an eating disorder seemed like the only way.
I loved eating disorders so much that I even wrote
my senior thesis about them.
In a way,
I’d been researching The Stone Girl
since long before I knew I would write it.
The Stone Girl
not, I know, a traditional story about eating disorders.
Sethie’s is hardly a typical case, though
maybe there isn’t really such thing as a typical case with such personal
Sethie is the girl who, at
least initially, skates on the precipice of her disorder, not quite diving
She is the girl who will never say
she has an eating disorder because she’s too ashamed – not ashamed because she
is sick, but ashamed because she’s not sick enough
to deserve the title.
Eating disorders are, of course, a very sensitive
They affect everyone so differently,
so personally, that I know there are as many people who will not relate to
Sethie as there are people who will.
Some people won’t like the way I’ve portrayed her; some people might not
believe she could be real. Some people might simply read the story for the story's sake, a tale of one girl's experiences.
people might recognize themselves, their friends, their classmates in her;
maybe they will recognize someone in their lives who needs help.
And maybe, just maybe, those people will begin to talk;
maybe a conversation will begin and take on a life of its own.
When I was in the throes of my body-obsession,
I always wanted to talk about food – how could I help myself, I was so hungry!
But I didn’t want to talk about whether you
thought I was sick or not.
I didn’t want
you to offer me advice, because I knew that no matter what you said to me,
you’d be wrong.
You couldn’t possibly
understand what it was like to be trapped in my body.
You couldn’t possibly be interested in
hearing just how fat I felt.
Today, I wonder if I might have made it to the other side
sooner if I’d allowed myself to talk about it, if I’d had people around me who
talked to me about it.
Maybe they would
Maybe they would
have known what it was like.
And most of all, maybe they would have helped.
I had many reasons for writing The Stone Girl
, but I like to think that if it reaches the right
audience – reaches the right girl – it might spark some conversations.
A blog tour is a one way to start a discussion,
and I hope you will follow mine.
Thursday, August 2: Emily’s Crammed
Friday, August 3: Literary Rambles
Monday, August 6: YA Romantics
Tuesday, August 7: The Book Addict’s Guide
Wednesday, August 8: Book Club Chic
Thursday, August 9: A Tale of Two Bookies
Sunday, August 12: The Teen Book Guru
Monday, August 13: The Teen Book Guru
Tuesday, August 14: Itching for Books
Wednesday, August 15: Random Acts of
Thursday, August 16: The Children’s Book
Friday, August 17: Isabel Bandeira
Monday, August 20: YA Romantics
Tuesday, August 21: Taking It One Book
at a Time
Wednesday, August 22: Satisfaction for
Thursday, August 23: Confessions of a Bookaholic
Friday, August 24: The Compulsive Reader
Monday, August 27: Almost Grown Up
Monday, August 27: A Chair, a
Fireplace, and a Tea Cozy
Tuesday, August 28: A Chair, a
Fireplace, and a Tea Cozy
Tuesday, August 28: Letter
Saturday, September 1: Distraction No. 99
Sunday, September 2: Literary Escapism
Monday, September 3: Dear Teen Me